It got me thinking about the endurance required to undertake such a feat, I thought well not all of us can overcome our shadows and fears in this way. But at some point we all face our own Mount Everest. I thought about some of my own challenges. Some of them have been a part of my training as a Celtic Shaman. Many have been my own doubts and fears.
But the one that tops the list is being a parent. You see, I think that we face so many fears on behalf of our children, because of our children and in spite of our children.
What I do know now is this, our children come in with their own set of contracts and lessons and have made agreements to learn certain aspects of physical life long before they were even conceived. In short, they are individuals, trying to discover their own individuality. I don't know what that is for my children anymore than they probably do at the moment (mine are 11 & 17) and I cannot decide for them. It takes an immense amount of love and non attachment to let your children become. It takes letting go of control and trusting the bigger picture.
I read a blog a couple days ago by a well known woman who writes something called Momastery. In her blog she talked about how we should give our children knowledge of the problems that alcohol causes and in this way, by being open with them then they will be armed with the knowledge that will save them. Many Mothers commented and agreed and mentioned how their young ones were fully aware and were fully committed to avoiding alcohol & drugs etc. Personally I found it to be naïve. I'm only saying this because I've had all those conversations and you know what kids will do what kids will do. Many parents have this misconception that any decision made by there children is based upon their parenting abilities. Ask yourself this, when you were younger did your choices reflect your parents or did you decide all by yourself?
This is what I mean, we can have hopes and dreams for our kids and arm them with all the tools of success but ultimately its up to them. This is how it should be. We cant take away their experiences for them. There's a bigger picture that we cannot know or see.
They need to climb their own Mt Everest's all by themselves, this is how they will truly learn. And this is NOT easy for us as parents, in fact thinking about it I need oxygen! But I know to trust the process and the guidance that they ultimately have access too and of course if I'm needed I'm there with the Oxygen mask, a hug, a box of tissues and a listening ear. edit.